Depression must be recognised as an illness. It is important not to see it as a weakness, a shortcoming or a lack of strength.
How families view a person with depression
Unhappiness and sadness are feelings we all experience from time to time. Depression, however, is an illness that disrupts daily life and makes a person's usual activities difficult. It is important for the family to know that this is an illness, that it is treatable, and that it will pass with treatment and time. The family should approach the person with this understanding. Family members should help the person feel understood and know that they are there when support is needed. This approach is reassuring for the person.
When is depression more likely to recur?
Relapse is more common in families where emotions are expressed excessively. Excessive criticism, a negative attitude and an exaggerated response to the person's feelings (yes, you look very bad, yes, it is obvious that you are unhappy, etc.) delay recovery.
It is important for families to learn about depression
With the person's consent, the family should contact their doctor and psychologist to learn about depression. They should make sure that medication is taken regularly. If there are any doubts, no changes should be made without speaking to the doctor.
How should families approach the treatment process?
The family should not interfere with the therapy process. Meeting with the psychologist may also be helpful if needed. A person with depression finds it very difficult to carry out their usual daily activities. Even keeping a conversation going, taking a walk or tidying their room can feel very difficult. Activities should be offered without pressure, and the person should be encouraged. If they agree, they should not be pushed to do too much. Simply connecting with someone and spending time together can be supportive.
The person's feelings should not be dismissed. Responses such as “What is there to be upset about? Don't let these things bother you” make the person feel misunderstood. Family members should avoid being overly critical, refrain from blaming the person and try to understand them.
What are the risks of severe depression?
It is particularly important to be aware that severe depression carries a risk of suicide and self-harm. In this situation, close cooperation with the treatment team is necessary.
